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If a parent does not speak beautifully, then the child will not have a chance to learn beautiful words.


Before you try to speak beautiful words to your child, you should change your image of yourself and your life.


For example, if you think “I’m not happy now” and you gave birth to a child.


You might think raising a child would give you the happiness you want, but it will be in vain because you are seeking your happiness from outside.


It is your own job to make yourself happy.


The source of your happiness is not directly from your kids or marriage.


The source of your happiness is derived from within you.


That is the shortcut to make your kids happier.


Otherwise you will put too much expectation on your kids in order to fulfill your happiness.


If your words are distorted, the distorted energy or vibration will be conveyed to the kids and they would take it as a fact and absorb it.


Words will not disappear.


The energy or image of the words will stay in their minds.


For example, you have an image of “Getting good grades will make you successful in the society.” This is what you believe in you life based on a belief that “Getting good grades is a must for happiness.”


You will unconsciously deliver this message to your child and when he doesn’t get good grades, you would talk with negative words.


“You are dumb. You are dull.” What a destructive word!


This will wound a child’s feeling and spirit like a sharp knife.


You should really be careful when you use the adjectives like “dumb” or “dull”.


It might be true that your child seems a little behind other kids.


However, each child has his own pace so that you should not compare him with others.


Accept the way he is and let go of your expectation and needs.


When your child needs some advice, then it is the time for you to use beautiful words.


Beautiful words will never hurt.


So many people are confused about the difference between the proper words and beautiful words.


As a result, a child’s feeling is hurt.


Dignity = Being as who he is as a sacred being.


It makes a big difference in your words when you have this in your mind.


When you need to discipline or give an advice to your child, you should use beautiful words.


Moreover, when a child does something good or show his talent, you should praise him with beautiful words.


Praising is different from spoiling.


With the praises, his self-esteem increases and he will learn how to appreciate the gift (given talent) and believe he/she is a great person.


Each child is perfect as it is born and as he grows and flowers his gift (talent), then he will have an abundant happy life.



A gift does not mean only study or sports.


He may be the one who is very kind and takes care of elderly.


He might be very helpful at home.


He may be good at drawing.


Any talent is good.


It may not match with what you think the happiness is but as long as he is happy doing it, then it is the gift.


Everyone has the gifts.


It is a parent job to help him find what his gifts are and support him to fully use them.


Therefore, it is important to cleanse your mind.


Getting good grades is good but it is not because he can compete better in climbing a career ladder.


If you hold the image that it is fun to learn various things to enjoy the different aspects of life, then you will come up with the words to allow him to enjoy studying.


If a child is not able to do something, with beautiful words, you can support him, teach him or sometimes correct him.


Meanwhile, when a child is doing a good job, then you should give him lots of compliments with beautiful words. As a result, he will have a beautiful self image.


To discipline means allow a child to create a good self image and experience himself as a sacred being.


Let him listen to beautiful words.


Let him see beautiful things.


Let him cultivate the beautiful minds.


You were born as a child of God and he is also a child of God.